Oral sex is a factor of sex for many couples. Regardless of what gender you are these tips will make you the best they have ever had. It is important to make sure your partner know how much you want to give them oral sex. Some lovers do not enjoy oral because they can not get it out of their head, when a little reassurance is all they might need. Making them feel comfortable and sexy in their body will help them to relax. A relaxed lover is one more likely to experience an orgasm! Here are basic key factors in having great oral sex.
1. If you do not enjoy it, do not do it. This obviously goes for most things in life, but it is especially important when it comes to oral sex. You can tell when your lover is not “in” it. If you look like you are not having fun, you will not have fun, and neither will your partner.
2. Ask what your partner likes. Everyone wants something different. Licking, sucking, kissing; everyone gets excited over different things. While your last partner might have enjoyed your mighty moves, your new partner might find those things most uncomfortable. Instead of guessing what they like, just ask. For many women, an organism is physical and mental; they need to feel relaxed and in the mood. So much of oral sex is the lead-up to it. Do not dive right for the clitoris. Ask and then do exactly what they say. If they are not sure, there is plenty of room for experimentation. Begin by making out and exploring other areas first.
3. Understand oral is not the same as penetrative sex. This is especially helpful if you are giving oral sex to someone. Using your tongue the same way you would penetrate with fingers or a penis does not feel the same; it is actually not particularly pleasurable for a lot of women. Oral sex is a different sensation than penetration, which is one of the reasons why it is so fun! Do not spend the entire time trying to go down on them as a substitute for sex. Oral is not a substitute; it is a complement.
4. Engage in foreplay. Yes, oral sex is considered foreplay on its own for some. However, even if you are doing it as a lead up to sex or you are considering it the main event, there is still a lot you can do to get yourself in the mood. You can turn things up a notch by kissing, touching each other. Stroke the vulva or clit with underwear still on. Again, you are building anticipation—you could even pull their underwear to the side when you are ready for contact. Some people enjoy anal stimulation while receiving oral, whether through your fingers or mouth. Again, always remember to get consent, and make sure you know what their hygiene preferences are as well. When you are enjoying your meal downtown, make noise. Let your lover know that you want to be down there.
5. Use more than your mouth. Just because it is called “oral sex” does not mean you can only use your mouth to do all the work. Your hands are an incredible tool to make oral sex a multi-sensory experience. You can touch their genitals or touch their stomach, their arms, their breasts or their inner thighs. Adding extra elements of touch helps build anticipation and arousal. As you begin heading down, build up the anticipation by nibbling or licking their inner thigh. Feel free to explore other areas with your mouth or hands as well, like the neck, stomach, and butt. Try running your tongue up and down with underwear still on.
6. Try putting a finger or two in. If your partner likes to be penetrated during oral, you can use one to two fingers or sex toys to penetrate the vagina. Lightly stroke the G-spot with your fingers in a curling motion while licking their clit.
7. Go slow. Dance around the clit with your tongue, or lightly graze it to start building sensation. Try lightly sucking on the clit between strokes if they are into it. Another technique is to write the alphabet with your tongue around their clit. Lots of different letters equals lots of sensation. Also, do not miss the opportunity in telling them they taste good. Be open about how good your partner taste.
8. Go for multiple orgasms. Not every woman can have multiple orgasms, but it can be a super-pleasurable experience. If they reach orgasm, keep going—gently! The clitoris may be too sensitive for direct contact right away, so start by kissing the thighs, perhaps teasing the labia, and after a few minutes, then go back to the clitoris. Nothing is sexier than a partner who wants to make you orgasm multiple times.
9. Incorporate toys. Sex toys do not have to be for solo fun, and they can be a great addition to a healthy sex life with your partner. Plus, the options are endless based on what you and your partner like.
The Best Positions to enjoying your meal.
Depending on how long it takes them to orgasm, switching up positions can be a good way to stimulate different areas and create different sensations. Here are a handful to try.
1. The Kivin method
The Kivin method involves the receiving partner lying on their back, and the other giving head from the side, so they're perpendicular to their partner's body. This position offers a new angle, more vulva stimulation, and the potential to reach more sensitive spots.
2. Oral sex from behind
From a doggy-style-like position, give it to them from behind.
3. Sitting on the face
A go to position for many; this one offers a good angle for the giver, plus lots of access to the rest of the receiver's body--like grabbing breasts or their butt.
4. Oral on your knees
Giving oral on your knees might seem like something more traditionally associated with blowjobs, but it can be hot for pretty much anyone. Remember to spread the labia here for more clitoral exposure.
5. Sitting down oral
Have the receiving partner sit in a chair. With their legs draped over the sides of the chair, you have got easy access from below.
6. The pillow method
Put a pillows underneath their hips. Using a pillow to tilt their hips upward slightly can allow their legs to open just a bit more, and also expose more of the anus.
1. If you do not enjoy it, do not do it. This obviously goes for most things in life, but it is especially important when it comes to oral sex. You can tell when your lover is not “in” it. If you look like you are not having fun, you will not have fun, and neither will your partner.
2. Ask what your partner likes. Everyone wants something different. Licking, sucking, kissing; everyone gets excited over different things. While your last partner might have enjoyed your mighty moves, your new partner might find those things most uncomfortable. Instead of guessing what they like, just ask. For many women, an organism is physical and mental; they need to feel relaxed and in the mood. So much of oral sex is the lead-up to it. Do not dive right for the clitoris. Ask and then do exactly what they say. If they are not sure, there is plenty of room for experimentation. Begin by making out and exploring other areas first.
3. Understand oral is not the same as penetrative sex. This is especially helpful if you are giving oral sex to someone. Using your tongue the same way you would penetrate with fingers or a penis does not feel the same; it is actually not particularly pleasurable for a lot of women. Oral sex is a different sensation than penetration, which is one of the reasons why it is so fun! Do not spend the entire time trying to go down on them as a substitute for sex. Oral is not a substitute; it is a complement.
4. Engage in foreplay. Yes, oral sex is considered foreplay on its own for some. However, even if you are doing it as a lead up to sex or you are considering it the main event, there is still a lot you can do to get yourself in the mood. You can turn things up a notch by kissing, touching each other. Stroke the vulva or clit with underwear still on. Again, you are building anticipation—you could even pull their underwear to the side when you are ready for contact. Some people enjoy anal stimulation while receiving oral, whether through your fingers or mouth. Again, always remember to get consent, and make sure you know what their hygiene preferences are as well. When you are enjoying your meal downtown, make noise. Let your lover know that you want to be down there.
5. Use more than your mouth. Just because it is called “oral sex” does not mean you can only use your mouth to do all the work. Your hands are an incredible tool to make oral sex a multi-sensory experience. You can touch their genitals or touch their stomach, their arms, their breasts or their inner thighs. Adding extra elements of touch helps build anticipation and arousal. As you begin heading down, build up the anticipation by nibbling or licking their inner thigh. Feel free to explore other areas with your mouth or hands as well, like the neck, stomach, and butt. Try running your tongue up and down with underwear still on.
6. Try putting a finger or two in. If your partner likes to be penetrated during oral, you can use one to two fingers or sex toys to penetrate the vagina. Lightly stroke the G-spot with your fingers in a curling motion while licking their clit.
7. Go slow. Dance around the clit with your tongue, or lightly graze it to start building sensation. Try lightly sucking on the clit between strokes if they are into it. Another technique is to write the alphabet with your tongue around their clit. Lots of different letters equals lots of sensation. Also, do not miss the opportunity in telling them they taste good. Be open about how good your partner taste.
8. Go for multiple orgasms. Not every woman can have multiple orgasms, but it can be a super-pleasurable experience. If they reach orgasm, keep going—gently! The clitoris may be too sensitive for direct contact right away, so start by kissing the thighs, perhaps teasing the labia, and after a few minutes, then go back to the clitoris. Nothing is sexier than a partner who wants to make you orgasm multiple times.
9. Incorporate toys. Sex toys do not have to be for solo fun, and they can be a great addition to a healthy sex life with your partner. Plus, the options are endless based on what you and your partner like.
The Best Positions to enjoying your meal.
Depending on how long it takes them to orgasm, switching up positions can be a good way to stimulate different areas and create different sensations. Here are a handful to try.
1. The Kivin method
The Kivin method involves the receiving partner lying on their back, and the other giving head from the side, so they're perpendicular to their partner's body. This position offers a new angle, more vulva stimulation, and the potential to reach more sensitive spots.
2. Oral sex from behind
From a doggy-style-like position, give it to them from behind.
3. Sitting on the face
A go to position for many; this one offers a good angle for the giver, plus lots of access to the rest of the receiver's body--like grabbing breasts or their butt.
4. Oral on your knees
Giving oral on your knees might seem like something more traditionally associated with blowjobs, but it can be hot for pretty much anyone. Remember to spread the labia here for more clitoral exposure.
5. Sitting down oral
Have the receiving partner sit in a chair. With their legs draped over the sides of the chair, you have got easy access from below.
6. The pillow method
Put a pillows underneath their hips. Using a pillow to tilt their hips upward slightly can allow their legs to open just a bit more, and also expose more of the anus.